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26
Mar
Best Man

Being A Best Man – Role of A Best Man

Being a best man is more than just partying around, in fact, there are a lot of responsibilities that is expected of him and he plays a big role in whether or not the wedding is a success. It is almost guaranteed that he’ll face obstacles big and small, but it is up to the best man to understand the importance of this job and what it has to offer. The groom chose him for a reason; either he’s a good friend, brother, or relative. The groom wanted him to be by his side as he transitions from single to married. By being best man; he is helping reshape another’s life, and becoming a valuable asset to an upcoming matrimony.

If the best man decides throwing a bachelor party, the first thing he should do is ask the groom if he would like to give his inputs, and what kind of expectations he has of the best man. Next, plan out invitations which should include: location, exact date, directions, Attire and RSVP. If the party plans on going out and drinking, make sure they have a designated driver and drink responsibly. Some fun game examples to play are: Scavenger hunt, which requires the groom find or do different items on a list, after he is done with each item he has to take a drink. If the party is at a strip club, it is always tradition to have the stripper embarrass the groom as much as possible.

If the Bride disagrees with the groom’s and best man’s decision on the party, let the groom and bride talk it out, later on catch-up with the groom on what to do. If the bride isn’t into the groomsmen partying, there are other cheap alternatives such as: batting cages then pizza, or poker night at home. Planning something a little more extravagant? Good places to start researching are: spas and resorts, out of town trips to popular places such as Vegas, and cruise vacations.

Now don’t get me wrong this is going to cost no matter what, and the bills are going to get higher the bigger the wedding. Including food, entertainment, transportation, etc. the average cost a best man spends during the entire wedding process is between 500 to 1000 dollars. If the best man is short on cash there are always ways to make ends meet. He can host a car wash, ask groomsmen to pitch in, make a donation website, or ask the father of the groom.

Now let’s review the role of a best man in details. Besides throwing a great wedding party, the best man’s number one duty is to see that the groom gets to the wedding on time, and properly dressed. At dinner the best man is required to the best man speech, now for most this can be scary, just take time and speak from the heart, there is no reason why anyone should make a huge long speech. Keep the speech short and simple, and remember to practice beforehand. What if the best man is feeling extra nervous? He should then remember that best man speeches are expected to be humorous, considerate and positive, so taking a deep breath and relaxing really helps. In case the best man is not funny; he can use it as an open liner to his speech. For example: “I know I am not the funniest person at times, but I know that the groom (use name) can make someone laugh, that is why the bride is so lucky. (Go into speech).” During the wedding the best man stands beside the groom, escorts the maid of honor on and off the stage, and holds the ring until the vows are said. He should also make sure that every event goes smoothly for the groom, and that all wedding guests are well behaved. Best men usually help plan tux orders for the groomsmen, and fallow out honeymoon plans, but usually are told to in advance.

So, one more time, keep it in mind that being a best man does require a lot of work and effort, but is worth it in the long run. Being called a best man is not an honor everyone gets, so it is important to be at the grooms side at all times. So, if you are a best man, get ready to be part of something great and meaningful in someone’s life. Enjoy your role as a best man.

8
Jun
Planning A Speech

How to Plan, Write and Give Incredible Best Man Speeches Avoiding the Common Pitfalls

Signs of A Successful Best Man Speech

Best Man Speech . . . a touching moment!

The idea of a bridal party is not a whimsical surface level relational symbol of how many friends the bride or groom has, but an example of true brotherhood and sisterhood supporting a friend in one of the most glorious celebrations of their lives. A wedding is not supposed to be just another party one can pick up on ladies and get inebriated at, and as the best man, it is his job to make sure the ceremony and reception goes off without a hitch. The groom already is sweating and stressing about this climatic step he’s about to take in his life, he does not need to be thinking of the over-intrusive Aunt Judy’s opinion on what makes a proper set of presents. Usually the best man is the groom’s best buddy or brother, the man that has stuck with him through thick and thin for years, and would take a bullet any day for his pal. Tradition mandates that the best man makes a best man speech at the reception. If you are the best man, this speech is what everyone is waiting for, and you better make it good because it is the culmination of what your brother or best friend really means to you. Years of friendship, fellowship, and brotherhood has brought these two men to this moment, so do not downplay the importance of your speech.

So how does one make a best man speech, or rather what makes a quality best man speech? Now that you have read how serious the speech is on an emotional and memorable level, it is okay, and even advisable, to be funny and jovial. If a best man can hit a comedic aspect and then execute a serious meaningful honesty in his speech the potential for the greatest catharsis is present, not only for the groom but the whole audience. I have been asked to be best man twice and have done two toasts so this is coming from personal experience and the success from both occasions. So to begin your process of coming up with the perfect thing to say, keep in mind that society is imperfect so before anything, throw away the unneeded stress. Most of the time when you are not stressed, this is where honest vulnerability comes from. Vulnerability is a key to making a best man speech that will really mean something to one’s buddy. Although on the surface it may seem to be feminine to be mentally and emotionally bare in front of strangers and your manly buddies, but it is a step in what will be the manliest moment of the night. Nothing is more inspirational than two men brave enough to express the bond they share in front of strangers.

A common pitfall among many best men, while giving their best man wedding speeches, is the affinity to try and be funny or charming. This pitfall usually makes the best man come off as a fake surface level self-indulgent chump, and this fact will be apparent to the audience. I can guarantee that one will come off as charming and funny if he is just honest with himself, the groom, and the audience.

The duration of the best man speech is a factor into a successful toast. On one hand the best man does not want to be that guy who stays at the microphone for an hour and thinks it is his own stand-up comedy performance. On the other hand one doesn’t want to be the awkward or careless individual who just says “congrats, drink up”. The most amicable approach would be the healthy medium, but in the end your creativity lends to the timing.

Clichés are not the best man’s friend. On one hand there is a good reason why clichés exist, because they stem from years of reality confirming a certain way things tend to go. Put everything into your own words, own it, do not look up ‘best man speeches’ online and copy and paste, because that is low and disrespectful to the best man badge per say.

There are three different ways to plan for the verbal execution of what one will say for his best man speech and that is scripted, free-form, and the hybrid. Scripted is one of the best choices, especially if you are nervous in front of a crowd and gives you time to really ponder what would be the best thing you can say to your best mate. It also leaves room for it to come off as robotic and not sincere, so practice it. Free-form is the most dangerous because if you do not have any sort of showmanship and add-lib skills it could turn into disaster. The hybrid is the best of both worlds and mixes both free-form and scripted, more like having an outline and this gives you a road but freedom to improvise. Hopefully with these tips you can confirm your friend’s choice to make you the best man. If you’d prefer a ready-made solution you can study the online best man speech resources (check out the banner below), several best men from around the world have benefited from the best man speech samples and templates it offers.

Speech Resource

3
Mar
Giving Speech

What Does it Take to Make Great Best Man Speeches

Best Man Speech Insight Blog for Best Man SpeechesHaving to prepare a best man speech can be very nerve wracking. Therefore, planning ahead would be an ideal thing to do. If you’re not used to speaking in front of large groups of people, then that’s alright. No one is going to expect you to deliver it perfectly, as long as you show that you have put a lot of thought and effort into it that will be enough to impress the bride and groom, as well as the rest of the guests.

Rehearse your best man speech several times before the wedding. Practice it in front of mutual friends, that will also be attending the wedding, and get their opinion of it. Best man speeches are always as good as the best man has prepared for it.

It’s a good idea to memorize your speech, that way you won’t be reading the entire best man speech from paper. Reading entire speech from paper, won’t make it personal, and will come across, as you being robotic. You want the guests, and especially the bride and groom, to feel the same emotions you are, and reading the speech, won’t portray that feeling. However, if you are afraid of forgetting what you have rehearsed, the write down some key phrases on note cards, and keep them tucked away in your pocket, for, just in-case.

When you’re thinking back on the things you and the groom have experienced together. Be sure to leave out the partying days, this definitely, wouldn’t be the day for it. Perhaps a personal story that the bride and groom have told you about would be more appropriate. Something humorous maybe, about when they met, or a trip they spent together. Do they have their own little sayings or nicknames for each other? If so, then that would be appropriate as well.

Keep in mind, this is their day, not yours, so keep the subject matter, directed to them. And always remember shorter is better. Keep your speech short and sweet, by making it too long, your guests will lose interest. If you keep it short, and entertaining, then it will in-deed be a success. Ideally best man speeches should not exceed 5 minutes. That is plenty of time to show the bride and groom how much you care, without hogging their spotlight.

Remember, it is important to keep any jokes you add during your best man speech decent. If you wouldn’t tell the same joke to your own child or grandmother, then leave it out. You don’t want to offend or embarrass anyone. Another thing to avoid is the alcohol. Try not to drink until you have delivered your speech. You don’t want to risk stumbling, or delivering your speech with slurred words. That would be the ultimate display of disrespect.

As long as you keep these simple steps in mind, I’m positive your best man speech will be a great one. When it comes time to give your toast, be sure to stand up straight, raise your glass high in the air, and ask everyone to join you. Congratulate the new couple, and give your best wishes for a happy and long future together. The best of the best best man speeches are always concluded by equally good best man toasts.

15
Feb
1500 Happy Best Men

1.5K Happy Best Men And Counting

Celebrating 1500 CustomersTime for a little celebration and we have 1500 good reasons to celebrate. A few days ago we had our 1500th customer who ordered the Best Man Speech Insight. And so, we now have one thousand and five hundred happy best men as our customers and we can’t be happier. We are honored to serve you in whatever little way we could.

We started journey in 2008 but at that time we don’t have our own product to offer. We launched the “Best Man Speech Insight” early 2010. It was a slow start, as you could imagine, but things really picked up during the next summer wedding season and we were well on our way.

During these years we have learned a lot of things from you, our valued customers. Even though the nature of our product doesn’t allow to have repeat customers (you don’t give a best man’s speech every day and even if you do you already have the guide with you), a lot of our customers would return to the site to leave a feedback or a testimonial – that really help us to make our guide even better.

Okay that’s pretty much it or this time. We are confident to get close to the 2000 mark before the year ends. Now it’s time to pull our socks up and keep our fingers crossed for a great summer wedding season ahead.

By the way, this post came after a long time but I promise the next post would come up soon.

2
Jun

Random Thoughts on Wedding Vows

Bride and GroomSummertime means wedding season – a time where couples celebrate their relationships and aspire for a long and prosperous future together. For many people, especially the bride, wedding day is the most important day of their life. A crucial part of this ceremony is preparing and delivering wedding vows, which is also one of the most stressful points of the wedding itself for any future bride or groom. There are virtually no rules to the way in which one can write wedding vows, which is why writing them may be so difficult; however, they are the promises that you plan to uphold to your partner for the remainder of your marriage, which for many stands as a lifetime commitment. There are many things to consider when preparing your wedding vows, especially in terms of what is and is not acceptable vow material for the wedding.

First, and probably most importantly, wedding vows ought to be honest. A marriage cannot survive without honesty, and so it is foolish to think that the wedding day and the vows are any different. It is imperative that promises made by the bride or groom to the other are not only realistic, but something that can be upheld without too much strain. Successful marriages are predicated upon honesty, and it is only realistic that the wedding vows are consistent with that mindset. If the bride or groom vows something completely ridiculous or unattainable at the wedding, it is possible that their future spouse will feel resentful if that promise is broken during the marriage, and feel less inclined to uphold their own vows. They may just seem like words, but the vows are truly promises that signify your commitment to the relationship and its future. Honesty may truly be the best policy in the case of the wedding vows, especially because it is something neither of you are likely to forget. It is important to start off the rest of your lives together on the “right foot”, and the best way to do that is to be realistic in the promises you make within your wedding vows.

Secondly, wedding vows should be meaningful. It is not enough to say as a bride, “I will let you have the remote when we watch TV”, or as a groom, “I promise to not make fun of you when you fart in front of me.” As a bride or groom, it is important that your wedding vows are significant to the relationship and heartfelt commitments to your partner. It is the only opportunity that a bride or groom is truly offered to stand and testify for their love and commitment to their partner, and it should be taken relatively seriously. That is not to say that wedding vows shouldn’t be funny (by all means, it is much worse for your vows to be stale and boring), but rather that the promises stand for something special to you and your future spouse. There are many ways to do this, not all of them have to be entirely cliché or melodramatic. However, they should be important to both you and your spouse-to-be. Promise to love and support your spouse, to listen to what they have to say, and respect their opinions and feelings. Promise to be more understanding, or to not lose faith in them during difficult times. That makes the wedding vows not only accomplishable by your own means, but they help to make your bride or groom feel special and comforted in the leap of faith you are about to take together.

Finally, it is important that your wedding vows express your true feelings to your bride or groom. Your wedding is the one day that you get to truly celebrate your triumphs before all of your friends and family, so make them genuine and complete. This again means that the wedding vows need to be truthful, but they should also be a reflection of the one making them. Be sure to let your future spouse know how much they mean to you, and make your wedding vows something that both of you can look back upon and appreciate ten or twenty years later. Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life, and the vows are meant to represent a milestone for your bride or groom and express the enthusiasm and excitement you share for the future. The way to accomplish this is through being honest and direct, but also letting the wedding vows express who you truly are, and how you feel about the relationship to your bride or group, to those observing, and to yourself.

2
May

KISS, Prepare and Practice For Making Best Man Speeches Successfully

Being one of the most important wedding speeches that would be given during the course of the wedding reception, best man speeches often set the mood for the rest of the evening. It would be very awful for the best man to come to the reception party without having prepared for his speech especially when he knew he has to give one ever since he was chosen to be the best man. Well, nobody is going to mind if the best man is a bit nervous, even though this could be handled easily, but the guests won’t appreciate if the figure that the best man is actually careless or negligent about his speech and has no clue regarding what he might say for his best man speech. It indicates the absence of responsibility that the best man is entrusted with. This obviously leads to a total embarrassment not only for the best man but also for the groom. Not to forget that it is also very disrespectful for the guests who would be listening to the speech. If somebody agrees to carry out a duty (the duty of a best man in this case) the very least he is able to do would be to try and deliver a simple but decent speech.

Make use of the the ‘tried and tested’ KISS approach!

In this particular case it’s a bit different than what you already know – “Keep It Short and Sweet”, or may be, “Keep It Short and Simple”. The objective of a best man speech is to toast the wedding couple as well as the bridesmaids and in the process share his thoughts on the groom, the bride and their marriage. It isn’t a way to much lengthy, speech that might bore the audience to death. Best man speeches that are longer than five minutes would probably be excessively long, if you aren’t a seasoned orator and you really know what you’re after.

If you aren’t preparing the speech you’re preparing to fail!

There isn’t any alternative to preparation. Of course, anybody could be tempted to deliver an extempore speech at times, but this may not be one of those times. There should be sufficient time to get ready and the audience is aware of that. The obvious way to accomplish this would be to actually put in writing everything that you plan to mention in your speech, then review it several times before you are happy with it. Try to memorize the key points of your best man speech – when you write your own speech it becomes a lot easier to remember. This also is going to result in a lot more self-confidence and eliminate some of the nervousness that all of us experience when we need to make a speech in front of a group of people.

Did I say, “Practice is the key.”

This is going to be the most crucial part of your entire best man speech preparation. Practice your speech hard – the more the better. Consider rehearsing your speech facing a mirror or you can even think of actually ‘test deliver’ the speech to a friend of yours. In case you are not accustomed to speaking in public, listening to yourself and becoming familiar to it is going to build the confidence you would need. If you believe you could have difficulties remembering all the topics, then jot down the key points on a few cue-cards and have them ready while making the speech. The idea is to take a look at those cards if you tend to forget some topics while making your speech. Make sure that you don’t by any means read the entire speech from a sheet of paper without having to look at your audience at all – that’s going to be a real showdown. Make use of your cue cards to give you the cues (that’s what they are for) whenever you need them and deliver your speech making eye contacts with your audience from time to time.

With some effort on your side as well as some guidance and support from friends and family members, it is very much possible to pull off a great best man speech successfully.

27
Apr

Wedding Speeches – What You Need to Do and What You Need Not

Wedding Speeches by Best Man and OthersThe big day is approaching and you have a role to play. You may be the best man; or the father of the bride; or perhaps you are the groom himself. Either way, you will be giving a wedding speech and you need to be prepared.

Like everything important in life, preparation is the key. For many people taking part in a wedding, making a wedding speech is the most daunting task. If you have done your homework, you are most of the way to doing a good job. So where do you begin?

The wedding speech you deliver depends on your role and also the culture in which the wedding is taking place. Tradition dictates that you include certain references: for example, in Great Britain the groom should raise a toast to the bridesmaids; this, in turn, requires that the best man reply on the bridesmaids’ behalf, thanking the groom for the toast. You need to be aware of what custom requires; you can be sure there will be someone shaking her head saying “You wouldn’t believe that he forgot to do such-and-such”. Check these out: use a book or the internet; if you haven’t been to many weddings, speak to someone who has. This is especially important if the wedding is in a culture with which you are unfamiliar.

Once you are aware of the compulsory elements, the rest is up to you. Start thinking about your wedding speech well in advance. This way, you not only have ample time to compose the wedding speech itself but your familiarity with it, gained over time, will help you deliver it well on the day. Think about appropriate anecdotes and little jokes that you can include. A wedding is a joyful occasion, so your wedding speech should be light and witty. However, do be careful: as someone once said, “It is better to have a boring wedding speech than to ruin the wedding”. There are certain to be people present who you do not know and it is hard to tell how a joke will go down. If you suspect that the joke might be too risqué or an anecdote borderline inappropriate, then err on the side of caution and leave it out. Remember, there are grandmas present at weddings, not just best mates.

While we are on the subject of mistakes, do not get a name wrong. About the worst faux pas you can make in a wedding speech is to refer to the bride with the name of the groom’s ex. Remember also that while it may be fun to rib the groom mercilessly, you should say something kind about him too. In fact, it is good form to say something positive and kindly about both the bride and the groom.

You are giving a wedding speech, so you doubtless know the bride or groom well, especially if you are the father of the bride. You are likely, then, to have more material for your wedding speech than you require. How long should the wedding speech be? Well, that is hard to say, but remember: there is little worse than sitting through a boring wedding speech. As long as you do not make it too long, you can’t go too wrong. So take the best of the material you have accumulated and discard the rest. Try to put the material together so that it flows well. Perhaps one anecdote leads naturally to a second (don’t have too many); or a joke illustrates a point you have just made. It is probably a good idea to put the “required elements” near the start. If you are toasting the bridesmaids, don’t leave it until the end, as if it were an afterthought. The exception is if you are toasting the bride and groom: this should probably be your finale.

If you are really having trouble with the structure and material for your wedding speech, you can find both on the internet or in guidebooks. There are wedding speeches that are virtually written for you, where you need only change names; and there are anecdotes and relevant quotations which you can sprinkle in where needed. But use these carefully if you can, as the wedding speech can become cliché. If you can use your own material, it will sound more natural and more “you”.

So you have the wedding speech composed and it only remains to deliver it. If you prepared well in advance, you should be familiar with the content and you may want to decide to deliver it from memory. Even so, it is a good idea to have a complete copy of the wedding speech tucked in a pocket. Even Churchill once had a mental blank when delivering a parliamentary speech and sat down in embarrassment with the speech incomplete. If anything goes awry, then you can take out the copy and read it.

Speak plainly and not too fast. If you are nervous about delivering speeches, remember that this is a wedding and not an exam. You are not being tested and everyone is on your side. You have the knowledge that you have prepared your wedding speech carefully and that should give you confidence.

Good luck. Here’s to you and your big day!